Welcome to Doing It, a column the place intercourse educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between intercourse and feelings. This month, we hear from girls on what their intercourse lives had been actually like throughout being pregnant.
As my technology comes into the part of life that, for a lot of, includes parenthood, I’ve noticed an intriguing shift in attitudes towards being pregnant. My friends appear to be extra aware towards their pregnancies and the way this performs into all different elements of their lives — together with intercourse. Many expectant of us want for this stage of their life to really feel empowering, maybe even to show them about their our bodies. What’s extra, they wish to proceed feeling like sexual beings, each throughout and after being pregnant.
After all, each expectant guardian has their very own actuality. Contemplating the (extremely particular person) emotional modifications and the (comparatively related) bodily ones, it appears solely cheap that, for many individuals, the sexual exercise skilled throughout this time is exclusive and in contrast to anything.
Once I requested my school buddy Lydia, who just lately gave beginning for the primary time, about her experiences, she mentioned she felt significantly engaging together with her pregnant stomach. “I used to be pleased with my physique and what it was able to, which translated to feeling attractive and fascinating,” Lydia advised me, including that she had essentially the most intercourse throughout her third trimester. “The larger my stomach acquired, the extra incessantly we did it.”
If I’m being utterly trustworthy about my emotions — and that’s, in fact, the muse of this intercourse column — I discover pregnant folks to be fairly alluring. There’s something concerning the huge, clean, rotund stomach that makes me really feel like I’m within the presence of pure magnificence. Each time I see a pregnant individual, I can’t assist however stare. I’m in awe.
However that’s not all: I additionally spend various time dreaming of turning into pregnant. Not having a toddler and being a guardian; this fantasy merely revolves across the act of turning into and being pregnant. Now, this will likely learn like an essay whereby I come clear about my impregnation fantasy. (And, let’s be clear right here: I’m.) However, greater than seeing it as a kink, I discover my curiosity piqued on the prospect of exploring a completely new facet to my sexuality — there’s merely so a lot untapped and unknown potential. I can’t assist however ask myself: What may intercourse be like throughout such an impactful and inherently short-term interval? How do your physique’s bodily responses change when it’s near-wholly targeted on getting ready to bear one other human being?